Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

February 22nd, 2021

Question: I am writing regarding my wife who is unfortunately happy all the time. She is always excited and cheerful, and I just can’t stand it anymore. She even loves puppies and cute animals, stops to compliment people on the street and in general is just annoyingly optimistic. What can you suggest to deal with this??      I happen to specialize in this issue and need to tell you that you are not alone. Although since la …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

February 8th, 2021

Question: A well-known educator recently spoke out strongly against "labeling" a child. Even if a child has a mental health issue and is receiving services, we must make sure he/she is not labeled. The remark struck a chord with me as 2 of my children are currently in therapy one for behavioral issues and one for anxiety. While the idea of not labeling a child sounds nice in theory, I am not sure how to put it in practice. At the end of the day m …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

December 12th, 2020

Question: The unfortunate reality is that marijuana use is becoming increasingly less taboo in society. This has been driven home by the recent vote in NJ to legalize its use. Until recently it never would have crossed my mind as something I need to worry about with my children. However, with its increased prevalence in society, I am starting to wonder if this is something I need to discuss with my kids? Do you think this is something I should ha …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

April 20th, 2020

Question: On a regular week, in normal times, I have so much on my plate. Now I am expected to care for my infant (no babysitter), keep house (no cleaning help), work from home, entertain my kids, and be in charge of their homeschooling. This while my husband is also expected to work full time from home. When I hear people talk about how this time offers us opportunities to learn with our children, quality time, etc.. I wonder what I am miss …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

March 31st, 2020

Question:  We live out of town and do not get a chance to see much of our extended family that often. A highlight of our year is the Yomim Tovim where we travel to our children. The thought of being home all alone for Yom Tov is just so sad for me. Baruch Hashem I get along with my husband but I was so looking forward to Yom Tov with the delicious grandchildren. I know that there are people that are sick and that in comparison this is not su …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

March 31st, 2020

Question: I am currently in self isolation on my doctors recommendation due to being exposed to covid19. Unfortunately, many others are currently  in the same situation and many more will be in the coming weeks. I am basically alone in my room ( so as not to expose the rest of my family) for at least another 5 days. Others I know need to remain in their homes with their families. What advice and guidance can you give me and others l …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

March 31st, 2020

Question: Any suggestions for coping for the tremendous amount of stress that coronavirus is adding to our lives? The constant stream of contradictory information from doctors, the hysteria of the media, and the genuine concern regarding what seems to be a serious problem is undeniably taking up alot of emotional space in my life.  Any recommendations ?       Much has already been written on this topic. I will attemp …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

January 14th, 2019

 Question: My sister-in-law sees an unlicensed therapist. This concerns me and I asked my sister-in-law about it who assured me that the therapist has very solid training and good results and she is happy with her. This doesn't sound right or ethical to me, but I am not sure what to do, if anything. I would appreciate the thoughts of the panel members.    It is impossible to comment on your sister-in-law as well as o …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

December 10th, 2018

Question: We have a wonderful daughter who is back from seminary, happily working and doing very well BH, but here is the concern...  While my daughter was in high school she started taking on more and more chumras and started becoming more and more frum and shtark. It affected her relationship with her friends, how she dressed, what she ate, (or didn't eat), her sleep, her davening, her ability and confidence in he …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

November 30th, 2018

Words of Chizuk from Rav Yeruchem Olshin Shlita Publicized with permission   ברשות the חשובע עולם:   First, I understand that you all take care of Jewish patients. Your work is about helping our brothers as the רמב"ם writes (Matnas Aniyim 10:2)  כל ישראל כאחים הם. This concept is not just an isolated רמב"ם. It is also a גמרא in Daf Bais of מגילה: The Chachamim made it easy for the villa …
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