Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

April 20th, 2020

Question: On a regular week, in normal times, I have so much on my plate. Now I am expected to care for my infant (no babysitter), keep house (no cleaning help), work from home, entertain my kids, and be in charge of their homeschooling. This while my husband is also expected to work full time from home. When I hear people talk about how this time offers us opportunities to learn with our children, quality time, etc.. I wonder what I am miss …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

March 31st, 2020

Question:  We live out of town and do not get a chance to see much of our extended family that often. A highlight of our year is the Yomim Tovim where we travel to our children. The thought of being home all alone for Yom Tov is just so sad for me. Baruch Hashem I get along with my husband but I was so looking forward to Yom Tov with the delicious grandchildren. I know that there are people that are sick and that in comparison this is not su …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

March 31st, 2020

Question: I am currently in self isolation on my doctors recommendation due to being exposed to covid19. Unfortunately, many others are currently  in the same situation and many more will be in the coming weeks. I am basically alone in my room ( so as not to expose the rest of my family) for at least another 5 days. Others I know need to remain in their homes with their families. What advice and guidance can you give me and others l …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

March 31st, 2020

Question: Any suggestions for coping for the tremendous amount of stress that coronavirus is adding to our lives? The constant stream of contradictory information from doctors, the hysteria of the media, and the genuine concern regarding what seems to be a serious problem is undeniably taking up alot of emotional space in my life.  Any recommendations ?       Much has already been written on this topic. I will attemp …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

January 14th, 2019

 Question: My sister-in-law sees an unlicensed therapist. This concerns me and I asked my sister-in-law about it who assured me that the therapist has very solid training and good results and she is happy with her. This doesn't sound right or ethical to me, but I am not sure what to do, if anything. I would appreciate the thoughts of the panel members.    It is impossible to comment on your sister-in-law as well as o …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

December 10th, 2018

Question: We have a wonderful daughter who is back from seminary, happily working and doing very well BH, but here is the concern...  While my daughter was in high school she started taking on more and more chumras and started becoming more and more frum and shtark. It affected her relationship with her friends, how she dressed, what she ate, (or didn't eat), her sleep, her davening, her ability and confidence in he …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

November 30th, 2018

Words of Chizuk from Rav Yeruchem Olshin Shlita Publicized with permission   ברשות the חשובע עולם:   First, I understand that you all take care of Jewish patients. Your work is about helping our brothers as the רמב"ם writes (Matnas Aniyim 10:2)  כל ישראל כאחים הם. This concept is not just an isolated רמב"ם. It is also a גמרא in Daf Bais of מגילה: The Chachamim made it easy for the villa …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

November 5th, 2018

Question: My parents are very controlling, critical, self-centered and emotionally unstable (they may possibly have personality disorders).  One of my sisters recently started disconnecting by minimizing her interactions with my parents. My parents are very hurt and angry and are trying many tactics to change my sister's behaviors (which includes badmouthing her to rabbanim). I come from a large family and all of the children are m …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

October 15th, 2018

Question: My very bright, mature, lovable, happy 5-year-old son has begun to experience what I have been told is called "night terror". He is a very happy child during the day, definitely with a more intense personality, but very healthy and well-adjusted and extremely bright. At night, he will wake up in terror, screaming, cowering in the corner, looking at me or my husband with terror, eyes opened wide, with real fear, and then a few minut …
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Author: Chaim Neuhoff, Ph.D.

September 17th, 2018

Question: I am a young adult with anxiety and constantly beat myself with mistakes that I make. I was wondering if you can please give me insight on how to deal with it. I'm a bit impulsive. For example, I spent a bit too much on food recently and now I'm upset that I don't have any money left for more important things I need. I think very bad thoughts that are not letting me move on in life. I get very tense and have negative thou …
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