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"Y" Mediation
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
September 25th, 2023

The story is told of neighbors who were trying to become more friendly. They hired a team-builder to help them make a play which they would act out in front of the greater community. Each neighbor that wanted to participate was given a part in the play. As in all plays, some parts were long, and some were short. ​ There was one fellow who was a bit forgetful. He was a charming, neighborly fellow, but he couldn’t remember his lines very we …
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The Harmony of Marriage
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
June 4th, 2023

The famous Biblical commentator, Rabbi Avraham ibn Ezra, once heard of a very special manuscript which described in detail the proper melody for reading biblical text. He was so excited that he traveled to the neighboring province in an effort to study it, despite the fact that a war was raging in the area. During his travels, he was apprehended by one of the factions and was accused of being a spy. The kindly rabbi insisted that he was a scholar …
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Don’t Label Me; I’m Not a QR Code!
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
April 17th, 2023

Over my years of teaching, many teacher stories have been shared with me. Some have been instructive, some less so. But the one about Horowitz is one that I like to remind myself of. A teacher walks into class on the first day of the school year. The students get quiet as they anticipate the start of a new lesson and a new school year. The teacher asks, “Which one of you is Horowitz?” One boy raises his hand. The teacher declares, &ld …
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What is Marriage Mediation?
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
January 25th, 2023

“You are driving a bus,” the entertainer began. I was sitting at a birthday party to which I had carpooled my son and some classmates. The entertainer was trying to include both children and their parents with a conversational riddle. He continued. “At the first stop 3 children get on. At the second stop 2 more get on, but one gets off. At the next stop a grandma gets on with two children, a boy and a girl. At the next stop 2 ch …
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When Words Fail Us: Creating Safe Space for Empathetic Listening
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
January 10th, 2023

  The call came in at 2:05 a.m. The 911 operator who took the call was a veteran of many years. He intoned with a mixture of compassion and authority, “Do you have an emergency?” But the caller couldn’t talk. Over the phone line came choking sobs. To the operator it sounded a bit like gasps for air. Or was it shock and panic that the operator was hearing? The sobbing, gasps, and attempts to talk in a hushed tone continued, …
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Five Steps to Repair a Marriage
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
November 8th, 2022

Doni, a friend of mine since high school, sidled up to me in the supermarket one day and said he wanted to talk. He related that years ago he had been visiting Israel and saw a man outside Yericho who was giving camel rides. He approached the man and asked, “How much do you charge to go up on the camel?” The man replied good-naturedly, “It is free.” The price was right, so Doni took a deep breath and courageously proceeded …
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The Spy that I Love
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
August 18th, 2022

It was during my post graduate studies that I found myself one day in the home of my mentor. We were sitting together, Rebbe (revered teacher) and I, studying at his dining room table. I don’t recall the reason for the personal session or what topic we were studying. But I do recall learning something that day that I hope to always treasure. We were studying texts diligently together when Rebbe’s 19-year-old daughter – a young l …
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Your Rearview Mirror
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
August 5th, 2022

My father encouraged us to be handy. He encouraged us to read the instructions and do it ourselves if we could. One of my fond memories of childhood is reaffixing the car rearview mirror after it fell off. Although I did wonder a bit why a rearview mirror was important – after all, people drive forward not backward – I proceeded to reaffix the mirror. I bought the glue, positioned the mirror, and then followed the instructions, holdin …
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Color Your Picture
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
August 5th, 2022

  It was about a half-hour into a marriage mediation session when the challenge became very apparent to me. In all areas of life – for both husband and wife – it was all or nothing. There was considerable need for a vacation, but only a fully planned vacation would do. There was need for increased communication, but only a full-fledged DMC (Deep Meaningful Conversation) would be sufficient. I asked their permission to introduce a …
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Write Your Own Script
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
August 5th, 2022

The woman was distraught. Her son had set out to that place called America, where the streets were “paved with gold.” She had seen him off at the nearby train station but had not heard from him for six months. Now her head was besieged with questions: Had he made it to the ship? Had he crossed the Atlantic safely? Did he find a job? Was he okay? Finally, she heard something. A local businessman came back from America and told her that …
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Worse Than a Leaky Faucet
Author: Mordechai Rhine, Rabbi, Mediator
August 5th, 2022

One of my favorite places to visit is Niagara Falls. The intense rush of water cascading over the falls is truly overwhelming. Over the years I have visited the Falls numerous times, and have experienced them as many of us have: from in front, from behind, as well as from the boat ride. But nothing prepared me for my recent visit. My previous trips were all to the Canadian side. It was so exciting to cross the border, and besides, “they&rdq …
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