Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 13th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Beis discusses the Jewish perspective on physical aggression: Reish Lakish states: One who raises his hand to strike another—even if he ultimately does not strike—is called wicked, as it is written: “And two men of the Hebrews were struggling with each other, and he said to the wicked one: Why should you strike your friend?” (Exodus 2:13). The phrase “Why did you strike?” is not stated; rathe …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I recently began dating and was surprised that I was extremely nervous during the time I was dating that boy. This is a new experience for me, I am generally laid back and I have never been the anxious type. What bothered me the most was that during the 2 weeks I was dating I had no appetite and could barely eat anything.  When that match didn’t work out, I was back to myself, but then when I said yes to …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: Is there a way to get my teenagers to be more organized and on top of things or is this just the way that they are and I should learn to live with it?  The constant forgetting and/or neglecting of responsibilities and the things they were asked to do, the oversleeping, and the mess in their rooms. These are great kids who are doing well in school and yeshiva so I don't want to complain, but as a mother it is really hard on me …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I was wondering what ideas you would suggest for enhancing communication in a marriage. This is for a couple that has good shalom bayis and is looking to work on it. Somehow although things are going well, when disagreements happen it is the same thing over and over. So, it seems that although there is a discussion, these issues are not resolved.  I don't think in this case therapy is really on the table but perhaps …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: My son has a tendency to jump around yeshivos. He is in second year and now is talking about switching to another yeshiva which would be his fourth in 6 years. He always has a strong reason behind it, he wants a certain shiur, a better oylam, or just thinks it would be good to have a "fresh start." I would say he is about average in most of the places he has been and they have been happy with him, he seems to keep thinki …
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Author: Yehuda Lieberman, LCSW

February 12th, 2025

Dear Therapist: I am almost always tired. I get a decent night's sleep, around 7 hours, which is certainly more than most people I know. Still, I have these constant feelings of fatigue throughout the day. I go to the doctor regularly so it isn't like I have some health issue that is causing it. Can this be mental health related? I think I am doing ok and I certainly don't suffer from any serious mental health issues. I guess I am not the happies …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 12th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Beis discusses how the Torah does not recognize a marriage canopy (chuppah) or betrothal (eirusin) as components of a gentile marriage. Instead, a gentile marriage is ratified not through symbolic ritual but through cohabitation as husband and wife. Tosafos here raises a question: If so, why is Esav criticized for committing adultery with a betrothed maiden (Bava Basra 16b) if such a status carries no formal legal obligation? T …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 11th, 2025

 Our Gemara on Amud Aleph discusses the Laws of the Sons of Noah. Some have raised the question: Why are they called the “Laws of the Sons of Noah”? Since these laws obligate all of humanity, shouldn't they be called the “Laws of the Sons of Adam”?   Some offer a simple answer: The only descendants from Adam who remained post-Flood were the Sons of Noah, so the term is technically accurate. Others answer tha …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 10th, 2025

Our Gemara notes a textual anomaly in the verse that discusses sodomy (Vayikra 18:22): The Hebrew term used is “Mishkave Isha,” which suggests plural, as in multiple forms of laying together. Therefore, the Gemara uses this plurality to deduce additional prohibited acts of sexuality even without complete entry. Although the pashut peshat might simply be that occasionally words are stated in the plural, like the royal “we,” …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 9th, 2025

Our Mishna on Amud Aleph mandates that an animal involved in a sexual act with a human be destroyed. While an animal cannot truly sin and should not be punished, its destruction serves to erase any lingering disgrace associated with the act. This is referred to in the Gemara as “kalon,” which signifies shame. In Gemara Kiddushin (19a), we find a discussion about the exemption of minors from capital punishment, even in cases of adulter …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 7th, 2025

Our Gemara discusses the sudden and mysterious death of the sons of Aharon, who were consumed by a heavenly fire. This fire is described as burning their souls but leaving their bodies untouched.   The verse (Vayikra 10:1) attributes this calamity to the sons of Aharon bringing a “strange fire” before Hashem.   Our Gemara explains that their true sin was their secret desire—or, according to some, even a verba …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 7th, 2025

Our Mishna on Amud Aleph outlines the penalties for those liable to stoning, including one who curses their father or mother. Yet, the Mishna later (84b) states that the penalty for striking one’s parents is strangulation. While the actual administration of these penalties was an extremely rare event, as the Mishna in Makkos (1:10) notes, we must still recognize that the presence of these laws and punishments conveys a significant message a …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 6th, 2025

Our Gemara on amud beis refers to a concept known as Hilchesa Lemishicha and Drosh Vekabel Sachar—meaning that certain laws, though not currently applicable, are studied either in preparation for their observance in Messianic times or simply for the inherent reward of Torah study. The Laws of Sanhedrin and the Laws of Sacrifices fall into this category, as they will only be practically fulfilled after the arrival of Moshiach.   Th …
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February 5th, 2025

Ayodhya, one of India’s most revered cities, is steeped in history, spirituality, and cultural richness. Located in the state of Uttar Pradesh, this city is home to several significant landmarks that attract pilgrims, tourists, and history enthusiasts from all over the world. If you're planning to explore this divine city, booking a reliable cab service can make your trip smooth and enjoyable. Let’s explore some top places to visit in Ayodhya …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 5th, 2025

Our Gemara on amud aleph deduces that the subverters —those who encouraged the idolatrous practice of an Ir HaNidachas—are worse than the actual sinners themselves. (An Ir HaNidachas is a city condemned to be decimated due to a significant portion of its populace being identified as idolaters.) This distinction is reflected in the punishments each receives: the inhabitants are merely executed by the sword, while the subverters suffer …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 4th, 2025

After the story about how Dovid HaMelech’s curses boomeranged back upon his descendants, our Gemara on amud aleph begins with an adage: Be the one who is cursed and not the one who curses, as a curse eventually returns to the one who curses. The Maharal (Gur Aryeh 19:19) explains this idea with greater metaphysical depth. He states that if one curses someone who is undeserving of the curse, it will rebound upon him. Maharal compares this to …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 3rd, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Beis discusses the dangers of cursing someone and how it can backfire:  Rav Yehuda says that Rav says: All the curses that David invoked upon Joab were ultimately fulfilled in David’s descendants, due to the curse that Solomon accepted upon himself. David cursed Joab: “Let the house of Joab never lack those who are afflicted with a discharge, or a leper, or who hold onto a staff, or fall by the sword, or lack b …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

February 2nd, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph describes a situation where a person was obligated to bring a sin offering for an unwitting transgression, but later became an apostate. In this case, even if the person wanted to offer the sacrifice, it would not be accepted due to their heretical status. But what if they later repented? Ulla says, quoting Rabbi Yoḥanan: If someone unwittingly ate forbidden fat and designated a sin offering, but then became an apostate …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

January 31st, 2025

Parshat Bo unfolds a pivotal moment in the narrative of the Bnei Yisrael’s journey towards freedom, with its lessons being especially poignant as we continue to watch out hostages being released.  It contains the last three plagues, culminating with the exodus of the new Jewish nation. Amidst these dramatic occurrences, we can identify elements of human behavior leading to Pharoah’s motivation to hardening his heart and subsequen …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 31st, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph discusses the capital punishment of stoning, which includes stripping the condemned person of their clothing to expedite their death. However, there is a dispute between Rabbi Yehuda and the Sages regarding whether a woman who is stoned should also be stripped of her clothing. The Gemara analyzes this disagreement and offers the following reasoning behind their arguments: One Sage, i.e., the Sages, holds that minimizing o …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 31st, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph discusses a Jewish version of emergency powers, whereby, in times of crisis, the Jewish court may take extra-legal steps and mete out punishments without due process: Rabbi Eliezer ben Ya’akov says: “I heard that the court may administer lashes and capital punishment, even when not required by Torah law. However, they may not administer these punishments with the intention of violating the statement of the Tor …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 30th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph wonders why the entire Jewish people were punished for Achan’s sin, given the principle that collective responsibility only applies when the sin is known publicly. If nobody knew about Achan’s crime, how could they be held liable?   The Gemara answers: Achan’s offense was not entirely secret because his wife and children knew about it, and they did not protest.   This answer is diffic …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 29th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Beis relates an aggadah about Yehoshua’s attempt to discover the identity of the sinner who secretly took from the banned spoils. When Yehoshua asks God to reveal the culprit, God refuses, declaring, “Shall you make Me into an informer?” Instead, God suggests that Yehoshua use a system of lots, which would identify the offender. The Gemara also compares this to the lottery later used to divide the land of Isra …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 28th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph compares one who fulfills the mitzvah of blessing the new month at its proper time to one who has seen the face of the Shekhina. What is the connection between the mitzvah of blessing the Moon and encountering the Shekhina? Various commentaries offer interpretations, each expressing a different dimension of our relationship with God. The Meiri explains that observing and blessing the renewal of the Moon brings about an aw …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 27th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph discusses the status of the Sanhedrin in the years leading up to the destruction of the Temple: “Forty years before the destruction of the Second Temple, the Sanhedrin was exiled from the Chamber of Hewn Stone and sat in a store near the Temple Mount… And no longer judged cases of capital law. Once the Sanhedrin left the Chamber of Hewn Stone, their ability to judge capital cases was nullified.” A simpl …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 26th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph discusses the process of cross-examining witnesses to assess their consistency and credibility: The mishna continues: And afterward, after the court examines the first witness, they bring in the second witness and examine him. If the statements of the witnesses are found to be congruent, the court begins to deliberate the matter. Sefer Daf al Daf recounts an incident where a respected community member was accused of sever …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

January 24th, 2025

Parshat Vaera begins the process of instilling hope into Bnei Yisrael that the redemption is nearing. Hashem appears to Moshe Rabeynu providing him the inspiration to approach Bnei Yisrael with a message of salvation. When Moshe approaches the nation, currently in servitude, we encounter a moment of profound despair. As they are burdened by the harshness of their slavery, they are unable to heed the words of their future leader.   The Passuk …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 24th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph provides an aggadic backstory to explain why King Chizkiyahu sought atonement. The verse in Divrei Hayamim II (30:2) states: “The good LORD will provide atonement for everyone who set his mind on worshiping God, the LORD God of his fathers, even if he is not purified for the sanctuary.” The Gemara explains: There was an incident involving Chizkiyahu, king of Yehuda, who intercalated the year due to ritual impu …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 24th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph describes how every human being was endowed by the Creator with unique features, stating that no two people look alike. It can sometimes be challenging to discern whether the Gemara is presenting an absolute rule or a general observation. The Gemara serves as a legal record but also contains parables and allegories. For example, if the Gemara praises God for creating beautiful roses, is this merely a general statement of …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 24th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph recounts an intriguing polemic between Rabban Gamliel and a Roman emperor: The emperor said to Rabban Gamliel: It is written in praise of the Lord: “He counts the number of the stars; He gives them all their names” (Psalms 147:4). What is His greatness? I can also count the stars. Rabban Gamliel brought quinces, placed them in a sieve, and spun them. He said to the emperor: Count them. The emperor said: Stand …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 23rd, 2025

Our Gemara describes the seating order of the Sanhedrin and how it was arranged according to the scholars’ credentials: “And three rows of Torah scholars sit before the judges, and each and every one among those sitting recognizes his place, i.e., they are seated in accordance with their stature.” It seems there was an official or unofficial, tacitly recognized pecking order, likely a combination of seniority and acknowledged su …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 22nd, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph recounts critical figures at particular junctures in Jewish history: “From the days of Moses until the days of Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi, we do not find unparalleled greatness in Torah knowledge and unparalleled greatness in secular matters, including wealth and high political office, combined in one place, i.e., in a single individual… Rav Adda bar Ahava says: I also say a similar statement, that from the days of …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 21st, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph discusses why we do not judge capital cases on Erev Shabbos: “And if we say: We should judge him on Shabbos eve, conclude his verdict on Shabbos, and kill him on Sunday, you are found to have caused a delay in his verdict, as the accused will have to wait overnight knowing he is condemned to death.  And if we say: We should judge him on Shabbos eve and conclude his verdict on Sunday, the judges will forget thei …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 20th, 2025

Our Gemara on amud aleph discusses various safeguards that are put in place to advocate for the defendant in a capital case during the deliberation phase of the trial. Once one of the judges offers arguments in the defendant’s defense, the judge can no longer advocate for conviction. However, the reverse is possible: a judge who argued for conviction may also offer arguments for exoneration. Rav, however, offers a key distinction, which she …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 19th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Beis discusses extra efforts to defend a suspect in a capital case, emphasizing the importance of finding every possible angle to mitigate the crime. One aspect of this approach is that the court will favor and allow appeals based on new evidence or novel arguments for exoneration, as opposed to later discovering arguments for conviction. The Mishna teaches that in cases of capital law, the court may bring the accused back to b …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 17th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Beis offers an intriguing expression of praise for the sage, Mar Ukva: "He who has light upon him, like Moses, who is called the son of Batya." The commentaries question why Mar Ukva is specifically described in this way, and why Moshe is principally identified as the son of Batya (who, according to the Midrash, was Pharaoh’s daughter and raised him). Rashi cites a tradition that Mar Ukva’s initial repentance and aw …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 17th, 2025

There is an Israeli saying: “The two dead drivers were both right.” Our Gemara on Amud Beis discusses situations where it is morally acceptable for Beis Din to seek compromise, even when strict law might dictate different rights. When the verse states, “Justice, justice, shall you follow,” one mention of “justice” refers to judgment, and the other refers to compromise. How is this understood? Consider a scenari …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

January 16th, 2025

  This week we begin a new Sefer of the Torah and Parashat Shemot, we encounter the powerful story of the Jewish midwives, Shifra & Puah, whose courageous defiance of Pharaoh’s decree sparked the birth of the Jewish redemption.  Their actions provide us a compelling lesson about not falling prey to the present forces of the outside world. Amidst the oppression and cruelty of Mitzrayim, their actions shed light on the psycholog …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 16th, 2025

Our Gemara on Amud Aleph discusses an intriguing legal case with metaphysical implications: In a case where someone was distressed about money left as an inheritance by his father, unable to locate it, the master of the dream, i.e., the angel overseeing dreams, appeared and revealed the exact amount and location of the money, but added that it was second tithe (maaser sheni). Upon finding the money as described, the case was brought before the Sa …
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Author: Rabbi Simcha Feuerman, DHL, LCSW-R

January 15th, 2025

The Mishna on amud aleph states that witnesses were intimidated with warnings about the catastrophic spiritual and physical consequences of false testimony, aiming to deter potential perjurers. Our Gemara on amud aleph explores the specific message conveyed to these witnesses. Initially, the Gemara considers a warning based on a verse indicating that false testimony leads to starvation through famine. This idea is rejected because the rabbis reas …
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